How Do You Pull Off A Successful Unreliable Narrator?

I just finished reading a certain best-selling book that included an unreliable narrator, and it got me to thinking about how you pull one of these off. It’s no easy task. I tried it. Unsuccessfully. I ended up rewriting the manuscript a different way, and as much as I liked the idea of the unreliable narrator, the MS was better without it.

Here’s a funny side note. Agents and editors are always saying they want unreliable narrators, but it’s not like you can tell them in your query that you have an unreliable narrator. That would defeat the purpose, wouldn’t it? They’d already go into it not trusting the character. Hmm … I wonder how you’d go about conveying that you’re giving them what they want without giving away the twist.

Anyway, back to my point. I’ve read several books where the author successfully pulled off an unreliable narrator, and I’ve pinpointed a few ways I think they make it work. But I’d love to hear if you know of more!

Written Accounts

Having the character put something in writing seems like the easiest way for them to lie to the reader, and it’s also the tactic I’ve seen used most often with an unreliable narrator. It’s still tricky, though, for that very reason: it’s been done. Maybe not too often yet, but I can think of at least two recent examples–one young adult and one adult–that used written accounts to mislead the reader. There’s something about a personal account that feels true to a reader, even though subconsciously you probably realize that the character doesn’t have to be writing the truth, you don’t have a reason to think they aren’t–until the author drops the bomb on you at some point in the book.

Traumatic Past

Here’s another person you can’t entirely believe: someone who doesn’t even know himself/herself. And yet this type of story still takes some masterful planning to pull off. You can’t just plug in a blank spot in the character’s memory. And for it to work, you can’t be outside the character, showing the reader what is different in the world the character sees versus the world everyone else sees. For the reader to trust the character, we have to be lost with them. While the first unreliable narrator is much more of an external authorial device, like “Ta-da! You didn’t see that coming!”, this one drags you in deep so that you feel more like we–the character and the reader–didn’t see that coming. It’s like the “Sixth Sense” effect. If you haven’t seen that movie, I’m sorry, but I think it’s been out there long enough I shouldn’t be spoiling it.

Deep Backstory

I wasn’t sure what to call this one, but sometimes the information the character withholds is so far in his/her past that it is understandable he/she wouldn’t think about it in the present. Or maybe the character has been trained to bury any thought of it (say, a secret identity). Is it frustrating to the reader when you get to the twist? Maybe, but I don’t mind a good twist if the author is able to explain why the character concealed it from the reader. This one is especially tough to pull off without leaving the reader feeling tricked, though. I’ve read a few that do it well. I’d tell you what they are, but then I’d spoil the twist :).

Other Ideas?

What other tactics have you seen work? I’m not looking for specific titles because then I’d know they’re unreliable! I’m looking more for generalizations like the above. Because maybe I’ll try an unreliable narrator again someday, in a story where he/she would be a fit …

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LAILAH Giveaway, Plus A Few Other YA Books You Should Read

About a month ago, I went to the Fierce Reads event here in St. Louis and bought a stack of books I was privileged to get signed from the authors. I had time for one of them–LAILAH by Nikki Kelly–before I got buried in library books. I’m not kidding here. I think the library has it out for me. Yes, I had 14 books requested at the same time. BUT, I was way down on the list for several of them, and others hadn’t even been released yet. It’s not my fault they all decided to come in at the same time. Anyway, the result is that in the last month I’ve speed-read ten books. Normally I might have granted some of these full reviews, but the library isn’t finished with me yet, so instead you get a young adult list this week and a middle grade list next week. But, BONUS, I’m going to give away my signed copy of LAILAH, so look for details at the end of the post. And if the library books ever stop coming, I might get to those other books I bought at the Fierce Reads event and do more giveaways :).

Ok, I just have to say that Nikki Kelly is absolutely adorable and was very encouraging to me as a writer seeking publication. I’m also extremely impressed that she found a way to successfully publish a YA book about vampires and angels in a market where pretty much every agent and editor says, “no vampires or angels!” She took it directly to the audience through Wattpad, and a publisher came to her after some million views. That’s the way to show them vampires aren’t dead. Well, you know what I mean :).

Lailah by Nikki KellyThe girl knows she’s different. She doesn’t age. She has no family. She has visions of a past life, but no clear clues as to what she is, or where she comes from. But there is a face in her dreams – a light that breaks through the darkness. She knows his name is Gabriel.

On her way home from work, the girl encounters an injured stranger whose name is Jonah. Soon, she will understand that Jonah belongs to a generation of Vampires that serve even darker forces. Jonah and the few like him are fighting with help from an unlikely ally – a rogue Angel named Gabriel.

In the crossfire between good and evil, love and hate, and life and death, the girl learns her name: Lailah. But when the lines between black and white begin to blur, where in the spectrum will she find her place? And with whom?

Gabriel and Jonah both want to protect her. But Lailah will have to fight her own battle to find out who she truly is.


I would review BLUE LILY, LILY BLUE, but the five things I love are pretty much the same as what I listed for THE DREAM THIEVES. Still, you should read this book! Actually, start with THE RAVEN BOYS and read the whole series.

Blue Sargent has found things. For the first time in her life, Blue Lily, Lily Blue by Maggie Stiefvatershe has friends she can trust, a group to which she can belong. The Raven Boys have taken her in as one of their own. Their problems have become hers, and her problems have become theirs. The trick with found things, though, is how easily they can be lost.

 

 

 


I’ve been anxious to read STITCHING SNOW ever since The Writer’s Voice contest in 2012. You may recall I was in that contest, too. Anyway, if I remember correctly, STITCHING SNOW was the first entry to receive an agent offer and a traditional publishing deal. It’s not the first published book from the contest I’ve read, but still, it’s exciting. And it didn’t disappoint. I loved the blend of the fairy tale with sci-fi elements, and the pacing was fantastic.

Stitching Snow by R.C. LewisPrincess Snow is missing. Her home planet is filled with violence and corruption at the hands of King Matthias and his wife as they attempt to punish her captors. The king will stop at nothing to get his beloved daughter back—but that’s assuming she wants to return at all.

Essie has grown used to being cold. Temperatures on the planet Thanda are always sub-zero, and she fills her days with coding and repairs for the seven loyal drones that run the local mines.

When a mysterious young man named Dane crash-lands near her home, Essie agrees to help the pilot repair his ship. But soon she realizes that Dane’s arrival was far from accidental, and she’s pulled into the heart of a war she’s risked everything to avoid. With the galaxy’s future—and her own—in jeopardy, Essie must choose who to trust in a fiery fight for survival.


Finally, I loved the MATCHED series, so I’ve been anticipating Ally Condie’s new book, ATLANTIA, for some time. It is a completely different concept and not really what I expected, and yet I thoroughly enjoyed it. I especially liked the theme of sisterhood and the way I never quite knew who to trust in the story. It’s very well done.

For as long as she can remember, Rio has dreamt of the Atlantia by Ally Condiesand and sky Above—of life beyond her underwater city of Atlantia. But in a single moment, all her plans for the future are thwarted when her twin sister, Bay, makes an unexpected decision. Alone, ripped away from the last person who knew Rio’s true self—and the powerful siren voice she has long hidden—she has nothing left to lose. Guided by a dangerous and unlikely mentor, Rio formulates a plan that leads to increasingly treacherous questions about her mother’s death, her own destiny, and the complex system constructed to govern the divide between land and sea. Her life and her city depend on Rio to listen to the voices of the past and to speak long-hidden truths.

On to the giveaway! I have a signed hardback of LAILAH by Nikki Kelly. North America only, please. Click on the Rafflecopter link below to enter. Good luck!

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Have you read any of these books yet? Let me know what you thought!

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The Wonderful World of … Drafting?

It’s been a looong time since I posted about drafting. Let me check … yep, part 3 of my It’s Just a First Draft series posted on Nov. 6, 2013, so just over a year. It feels like much longer ago that I was drafting CATCH HIM BY DISGUISE, probably because I really took my time revising and going through several rounds of readers before I started querying. I was determined not to query that sucker too soon. But back to today’s topic … drafting.

So here’s the thing: I’m generally on the side of loving revising and hating drafting. I think it’s because when I’m drafting I can’t yet see how everything’s going to fit together. It’s like a big puzzle with a bunch of missing pieces, and I just want them all to be there already so I can put them together. I was especially concerned going into this new project because my planning was all over the place. You see, I have a process. Yep, I’ve blogged about that, too. (See my Before the Draft series.) I’m a little bit anal about my processes, a trait I’ve unfortunately passed on to my son (sorry, kid). So when I kept jumping around–ooh, character sketch, oh, now let’s research a place, wait, I need to jot down these scene ideas–I was seriously concerned about how the drafting itself would go.

Now, I’m only 18,000 words in, but I’ve been–gasp!–enjoying it. This manuscript is flowing out in a way nothing I’ve written in the past has. I don’t mean that my fingers are just typing along without pause. There are definitely moments when I have to sit and think about what comes next, but it also keeps surprising me–especially since until about two days before I started drafting I was still struggling with who the main character really was. I just couldn’t figure her out, mainly because to work in the plot I’d set up for her, she has to think very differently than I would. So that’s been interesting. I have a boy POV, too, and I’ve been shocked at some of the things coming out in his voice as I’m writing. He’s kind of angry. And I’m going to have to get creative with his language because cursing is something I won’t have in my writing for my own personal reasons, but I’ll figure out how to make it authentic for him. Anyway, moving on.

The other thing that’s different this time is I keep getting ideas that I have to email myself when I’m getting ready for bed at night or out shopping or wherever. That’s usually a revision, problem-solving thing for me. But it’s happening at the drafting stage instead, and on the plus side, they’re generally ideas for things I haven’t written yet. So, that makes me even more excited to keep drafting. Problem-solving in advance!

I might hit a wall tomorrow, so I’ll just bask in the glow today. But I really hope this is a turning point. It would be lovely to start loving drafting in addition to revising :).

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YA Review & Interview: FORBIDDEN by Kimberley Griffiths Little

Today I’m thrilled to feature an interview with Kimberley Griffiths Little for her new young adult historical, FORBIDDEN, which takes readers much further into history than the typical historical novel. Take a look at this gorgeous trailer for a glimpse.

Kimberley graciously answered questions for me about the five things I loved best.

1. When I first read about your research into belly-dancing, I imagined a very different setting for this story. I had no idea it was 1759 BC in the deserts of Mesopotamia. I felt like I’d been transported into the Old Testament! What kinds of texts did you refer to as research for the customs and daily life of this time? Did you get to travel?

I did use the Old Testament – mostly for names, though, but Abraham is one of my favorite prophets and his story is quite heart-breaking. He was also a nomad who had tents and camels and goats. I used to teach the Bible to teenagers several years ago—and it was definitely inspiring and helped me get into the time period. I also spent years reading about the Middle East; Bedouin tribes and their history, culture, food, and goat hair tents. I own one very *thick* book that has 200 pages just about camels.

I did a lot of reading about the roots of belly dance and what an important part of the women’s world the dance was for childbirth, betrothals, marriage, and death. The dance was a huge part of the goddess temples and religion. Those clashing cultures and worship beliefs were a ready-made contrast.

Last year I made my dream trip: I got to visit Jordan and the world wonder of Petra (a very important and romantic chapter takes place in Petra!) although it belonged to the Edomite tribe in 1750s BC. Breath-taking scenery, friendly people, great food; it was a fabulous, awe-inspiring and spiritually uplifting trip as we also spent 10 days in Israel.

Pinterest (I have a Board with fabulous pictures of Petra’s stunning landscape and the Bedouins who live there—and Bedouin-decorated camels! Plus Middle Eastern and Belly Dance boards!)

2. I love the way the romance grows between Jayden and Kadesh. How did you come up with these two characters? Did they come to you easily, or did you have to create one to complement the other?

Who doesn’t love a mysterious, dark and handsome stranger?! I started dreaming about this book 11 years ago . . . the characters came to me fairly easily after all the research because I knew I wanted to write a story about a character who was a true girl of the desert and how much her home and family meant to her, but I was also researching the mysterious frankincense lands far to the south along the Arabian Sea (the modern country of Oman) so creating her love interest in a boy from those secret lands made for a perfect contrast.

3. I loved all the complex layers you created for Jayden. She had to deal with not just the struggle of her unwanted betrothal but also multiple family issues and tribal politics. Did you have all of those layers in mind when you began the story, or did some come into play later?

The tribal politics was developed more fully during later drafts. I wanted to raise the stakes with every draft, and the character’s complexities and motivations grew and refined. It just seems to take time, right? And sometimes it also takes brainstorming with your trusted crit friend or a son who is a bookworm and brilliant at story structure. :-) I’m lucky!

4. Ok, fun question! Dancing is such an integral part of Jayden’s tribe and her own identity. Did you learn some belly-dancing yourself to get into her character?

Absolutely! It was the original spark, actually. And, um, I performed once! Scary, but fun, too!

For years the idea of belly dance was intriguing to me; mystical, sensuous, and yet so beautiful and mesmerizing to watch. How they move their muscles and hands is incredible! I also love this ancient dance because any women of any age or any size can dance this style—and they all look beautiful.

5. I’m fascinated by how different this book is from your others. You switched not only categories, but also genres, jumping from contemporary middle grade with a hint of magic to historical young adult. How did you adjust your mindset to such a different style of writing?

It’s funny because I’ve been simultaneously writing both MG and YA books for 15 years. It just took longer to publish the YA historical trilogy.

During the decade of the 2000’s everything was vampires, werewolves, fairies, and boys in wizard school. :-) Historical fiction definitely took a back seat, but it’s coming baaack! Book genres are cyclical. For instance, during the decade of the 2000’s contemporary YA was also dead, and now it’s being published by the millions and getting made into movies. Contemporary YA is the hot *new* genre. Well, tell that to someone like Richard Peck who wrote fantastic contemp YA during the 1990s!

My other historical fiction: In 2002 I published a book with Random House called The Last Snake Runner. It’s time travel and based on the true story of a New Mexico tribe who lives in a village on top of a 400-foot mesa. It’s a war story with Spanish conquistadors who came through the Southwest in 1599 and waged a 3-day war with the local tribe, eventually burning the village and taking them into slavery. Cannons and guns versus stones and slings! There are snakes and a girl in the past and heart-breaking consequences. Many middle schools use this book because there are no other MG/YA books about the history of the Southwest—that both boys and girls really enjoy. I brought it back into a print book and Kindle edition this past spring. AMAZON LINK

Thank you so much for having me, Michelle!

Thank you, Kimberley! And here’s where you can find her:

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How to Research Agents: Ready to Query

It’s here! The final post! When I started this series, I had no idea it would take so many weeks to get through populating an agent spreadsheet. Wait. That’s not true. I knew it took that long to do the research. I just didn’t realize it would take me that long to explain it. But here we are, about to add the last few columns to the spreadsheet. All that’s left are the actual fields to track the queries. So, to the right of the Auto Response? column, add the following five columns:

Query Sent Should hear back by: Query Response Partial Response Full Response

Now, since I love to make use of the statistics in QueryTracker, I also pay it forward and track my queries there as well, but while QueryTracker will show me nice circle graphs with percentages of how many positive and negative responses I have, it doesn’t show me qualitative information all in one place like my own spreadsheet. So, here’s how I use each of these fields.

In the Query Sent field I just put the date I sent the query. Easy, right? I have noticed that for sorting purposes it works best if you put a zero in front of January through September dates, i.e., 04/14/14. Then, I calculate when I should hear back from the agent by referring to the Response Time field. If the agent lists a specific number of weeks in which he/she will respond, I count it out on my calendar and plug that date into the Should hear back by: field. If it’s an agent who says “six weeks if interested,” then my note in that field will list the date followed by “–close if no response.” If, on the other hand, the agent has instructions to follow up after a certain number of weeks, I include the date followed by “–follow up if no response.” However, I do monitor the agent’s Twitter feed/blog to see if they note that they’re behind. If so, I hold off on following up. Some agents may have a date with no instructions, if there’s no action to take but it’s just to give me an idea of when I might hear. Others might have a question mark if the agent doesn’t list an expected response time. This field is really for my own piece of mind so I already have reasonable expectations on when I should receive a response.

When I receive a Query Response, I include the date and then whether it is a form rejection, personalized form rejection, detailed rejection, or request. Or, as mentioned above, if it’s an agent who lists a specific time in which they’ll respond if interested, I close it out.

  • For the first two, I put [date] – form/personalized form rejection, then I move the entire row to a new sheet within the spreadsheet labeled rejections. There’s no need to keep rejections mixed in with active queries.
  • For a detailed rejection, I put [date] – [pasted copy of the agent's comments]. Once again, I move the row to the rejections sheet in the spreadsheet.
  • For a query past the agent’s stated response time if interested, I put [date] – closed due to no response. Then, you guessed it, I move the row to the rejections sheet.
  • For a request (yay!), I put [date] – partial/full request; [date] – sent. If the agent replies that they received the request, I note that in parenthesis. Not all agents do, though. Then, I have more fun playing with statistics. Remember I mentioned the Agents with Similar Tastes report in QueryTracker in the last post? Well, when I receive a request, I do the following:
    1. Go to the agent’s profile and click on Reports.
    2. Under Select a Report, choose Agents with Similar Tastes (must have a premium membership).
    3. To the right, a new pull-down menu will appear. Under Select a Genre, select the genre/category for your manuscript, and then click View Report.
    4. For each agent listed in the report, make a tally mark in the Note column (third from the left). Does this mean that because these agents have requested the same manuscripts before they’ll both request yours? Not necessarily, but it doesn’t hurt to track the information. I’m still testing it out, but my theory is that if you have an agent with a lot of tallies, meaning he/she has the same taste as many other agents who have requested from you, it can only be a positive thing …

For Partial Response, I use a similar system to the above–the date followed by the type of rejection or request (probably a full at this point!). And for Full Response, again a date and the type of rejection or, dare we hope, an offer! Actually, if you get an offer, you’re probably done with the spreadsheet :). Well, maybe if you get more than one you’ll still take some notes.

Ok, that’s it, all 25 columns in my agent spreadsheet. So here are a couple of last-minute tips.

  • You’ve spent the time researching the agents, so pay attention to what they want! Don’t think you’ll be the exception to their guidelines or what they’re looking for. Don’t query more than one agent at the same agency unless they say you can, and don’t query an agent who is closed to queries.
  • I spent all this time on researching agents, but you all know you need to work on those queries and other submission materials separately, right? Right. That’s what I figured.
  • Don’t query and tell. No matter what querying strategy you choose, agents want to feel like they’re your first choice. Who doesn’t? So don’t go around tweeting or blogging about how many agents you’ve queried or how many submissions you have out. Now, if you enter an online contest, they’re going to know about it, and that’s fine. Just don’t put anything more out there than you have to. This is a time to be demure and keep your lips sealed. If you want to share with a friend, do it privately.
  • Your spreadsheet is a living document. Keep updating it whenever new information crops up about agents who interest you, whether it’s a tip they share about something they’d like to represent or a book you’ve read from their list.

I think that’s it. Any final questions?

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YA Review, Interview & Giveaway: FALLS THE SHADOW by Stefanie Gaither

Two years ago, I read the QueryTracker success story for Stefanie Gaither’s FALLS THE SHADOW and thought, “Wow! I have got to read that!” Well, fast-forward two years and I’ve finally had the chance. And, bonus, Stefanie agreed to answer my questions about the five things I loved best and has offered to send a signed copy to one of you lucky readers. Details are at the end of the post. But first, here’s the cover and description for those of who you didn’t read that query :).

FALLS THE SHADOW by Stefanie GaitherWhen Cate Benson was a kid, her sister, Violet, died. Two hours after the funeral, Cate’s family picked up Violet’s replacement. Like nothing had happened. Because Cate’s parents are among those who decided to give their children a sort of immortality—by cloning them at birth—which means this new Violet has the same smile. The same perfect face. Thanks to advancements in mind-uploading technology, she even has all of the same memories as the girl she replaced.

She also might have murdered the most popular girl in school.

At least, that’s what the paparazzi and the anti-cloning protestors want everyone to think: that clones are violent, unpredictable monsters. Cate is used to hearing all that. She’s used to defending her sister, too. But Violet has vanished, and when Cate sets out to find her, she ends up in the line of fire instead. Because Cate is getting dangerously close to secrets that will rock the foundation of everything she thought was true.

And here are Stefanie Gaither’s answers to the questions I posed about the five things I loved most:

1. I love this premise. I’m sure you’ve been asked before, but where did you come up with the idea for a world where clones are a reality?

Part of it was the science geek in me wondering about that sort of world, but there were personal reasons for wanting to tell this story, too; as someone who had lost quite a bit of close family by the time I was Cate’s age, I can really relate to that desire that some of the people in this world have to give their loved ones an immortality through cloning.

2. Yay for parents who aren’t dead! And yet … there were definitely complicated family dynamics. I’m curious: did you plan Cate’s parents and their histories in advance (in particular her mother’s), or did that develop with the plot?

I had an idea of what Cate’s relationships with her parents would be like from the beginning, but as the story progressed, I had to think more and more about how those relationships came to be so that it would (hopefully) read more realistically. And that involved a lot of thinking about what her parents had been through, which led to backstory, which, of course, ultimately influenced the plot. So, I guess you could say it all sort of developed simultaneously? I’m not much of a linear thinker when I’m writing, so it’s hard to say which details came first.

3. The relationship between Cate and Violet was fascinating. Obviously the story’s from Cate’s point of view, but how much did you get inside Violet’s head to figure out how she would react in various situations?

A lot. Fun fact: when I first started writing the book, it was actually a dual pov that switched between Cate and Violet’s narration. There were a few scenes later on, too, that I at least partially drafted from Violet’s pov so that I could try to see things through her eyes. It was especially challenging with her because she’s essentially two people—the old Violet and the new one—and those two people are constantly warring in her head. So I spent a lot of time in that head, trying to figure things out.

4. I loved all the action! What kind of research did you have to do for the fight and chase scenes? Or are you secretly a ninja?

I may have been known to dabble in ninja-ry every now and then :). But other than that, most of the research I did for those scenes had to do with the weapons used, and medical stuff re: what would actually happen if someone, say, stabbed you in the stomach. There was some hands on stuff, too; when I’m writing out an action scene, I like to act it out to help myself visualize it. My poor husband usually gets roped into the act too. But he’s usually a good sport about me kicking him around and putting him in chokeholds, at least ;).

5. And I have to mention the romance, of course. I loved the way you threw Cate and Jaxon together in a life-or-death situation, and yet there’s history on both sides. How did you decide what kind of guy would coax Cate out of the shadows?

It was all a matter of knowing Cate first and foremost, and knowing how she would react to different people and personalities and different kinds of attempts to, as you put it, “coax her out of the shadows”. I couldn’t see her, for example, opening up to a guy she just met, because she’s too guarded for that. So I decided they had to have some sort of history, and as much of a pre-established connection as the quiet Cate would have allowed. And I couldn’t see her opening up to someone as loudmouthed as say, Seth, either. She has enough drama in her life dealing with Violet, so it made sense to me that she would seek comfort in someone like Jaxon, who to me is ultimately (even in spite of a few mistakes) the strong, steady and sweet type. Basically, it just comes down to seeing her as an actual person, and thinking about what other sort of actual person would complement her best.

Thanks, Stefanie, for stopping by! I love these answers. If anyone wasn’t already dying to read this book based on the description, I bet they are now!

And on that note, to enter the giveaway for a signed copy of Stefanie Gaither’s FALLS THE SHADOW, click on the Rafflecopter link below. North America only, please.

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Next week I’ll have another interview–with Kimberley Griffiths Little and her new young adult novel, FORBIDDEN–so be sure to come back for that one!

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A Halloween Memory

DSCN4215A couple of days ago I received an email that said, “Guess who’s turning 87 on October 31?”, and my breath hitched a bit. Because she’s not. My grandma passed away in January. I immediately went in and deleted her birthday from my BirthdayAlarm account, but I didn’t really need the reminder anyway. Halloween loomed as a day that would be haunted by a new ghost this year–except not the creepy, get-under-your-skin kind. She’d never do that. Or maybe she would for a laugh … Anyway, for my whole life, Halloween has been Grandma’s birthday, and with the exception of the years I was away at college, I always saw my grandma on Halloween. So for the past couple of months, I’ve been thinking about how this Halloween would be different, and I know my family has, too.

I could be sad. I still miss her terribly. We used to visit her every week. I don’t know how many adults in their thirties can say their grandma is one of their best friends, but she was one of mine. She knew my writing dreams, and she was a constant source of encouragement. So, yes, I could be sad today. But she wouldn’t want that. She’d want me to celebrate. Heck, she’d want me to make a joke of it and sing something like “Ding, dong, the witch is dead.” If that sounds awful, it’s only because you didn’t know my grandma and her sense of humor. My other grandma once gave her a broom for her birthday, and she thought it was hilarious. She was the furthest you could get from a witch, but she had a lot of fun with her Halloween birthday.

So, I will, too. I’ll remember the times we had a Halloween birthday dinner and watched her and my grandpa pass out candy (he always counted how many trick-or-treaters came by). I’ll remember how even the last couple of years, when she wasn’t feeling well, she still wore something crazy to commemorate the day. Maybe I’ll even wear something a little crazy myself. And I’ll be thankful she’s dancing with angels today instead of stuck here in a failing body. Love you, Grandma!

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